Our thoughts are powerful forces in the creation of our experience of life. You may be able to recall a time when frustration that was based on a misunderstanding completely evaporated when your understanding changed. This is because our interpretation defines our experience, and it can change in an instant. Our only true reality is the present moment, so rather than merely accepting that life is happening to us, we can harness the power of our thoughts to actively create a positive reality. (Daily OM, March 18, 2010).
How true! I’ve often experienced a shift in my level of anxiety when I’ve taken the time to look at my situation from a different perspective. We can become so entrenched in an idea or in one way of looking at our daily problems that we start to believe that there is no way that things could possibly work out. For example, I was working at a job that made me completely unhappy. I felt stuck because I would not let myself look at the situation from any perspective except for the one that made me anxious. I read something somewhere during that time that prompted me to look at the situation as an outsider. Instead of being on the inside of things and always seeing the negative impact that my work was having on me, I stepped back and looked at why I had been hanging onto the job. When I looked at it this way, I was able to see that the reasons why I was still there really didn’t fit with any of my values. The only reason I was still working in that position was because of the money I was making. Personally, I don’t place alot of value on having lots of money and the fact that alot of money was the only thing I was getting out of the job simply wasn’t good enough anymore. I reframed the situation, putting my most important values in the forefront and decided that it was time to leave. I gave my notice, left the job and my life took on new meaning. Instead of working to make more money, I started working to do the things I enjoyed doing. I even took a year and a half off before doing any kind of work outside the home and it really helped me put things in perspective. Today, I love the work I’m doing and although it won’t make me wealthy, I feel rich because it is enriching work.
Take a moment and think about something that you’ve been nervous about. Step back and examine the parts of the situation that you’re stuck on and then try to reframe the issue. It helps! Give it a shot.
My name is Rebecca Benston. I’m a Christian. I’m a woman. I’m a mother. I’m a writer. I’m a thinker. When I write fiction, I am usually writing a mystery series called The Rona Shively Stories. My P.I. character, Rona Shively is feisty, fearless and fabulous and is usually caught up in something she doesn’t want to be caught up in. In addition to this series, I also have a blog called Higher Ground for Life. Through this blog, I’m hoping to reach women or anyone who is seeking to develop a relationship with God and give them inspiration to get out there and follow His path for their lives!
I also have a blog called Leading the Follower. This one is my favorite. I write about religion, faith, spirituality and all that goes along with it. What we believe, what we don’t believe, what we are told to believe and how society feels about believing in general. I do a lot of testifying here and some of what I say may make you angry. Most of it will make you think. Some of it will make you cry. Any of it could make you laugh. It’s really up to you.
If you are looking for practical advice, honest conversation, and no nonsense observations about living in today’s world, check out my blogs at http://highergroundbooksandmedia.com and http://www.ronashively.wordpress.com and http://www.highergroundforlife.wordpress.com and http://www.leadingthefollower.wordpress.com. And if you’re so inclined, you can purchase my books and some other great, inspirational works from Higher Ground Books & Media at http://highergroundbooksandmedia.com.