Our thoughts are powerful forces in the creation of our experience of life. You may be able to recall a time when frustration that was based on a misunderstanding completely evaporated when your understanding changed. This is because our interpretation defines our experience, and it can change in an instant. Our only true reality is the present moment, so rather than merely accepting that life is happening to us, we can harness the power of our thoughts to actively create a positive reality. (Daily OM, March 18, 2010).
How true! I’ve often experienced a shift in my level of anxiety when I’ve taken the time to look at my situation from a different perspective. We can become so entrenched in an idea or in one way of looking at our daily problems that we start to believe that there is no way that things could possibly work out. For example, I was working at a job that made me completely unhappy. I felt stuck because I would not let myself look at the situation from any perspective except for the one that made me anxious. I read something somewhere during that time that prompted me to look at the situation as an outsider. Instead of being on the inside of things and always seeing the negative impact that my work was having on me, I stepped back and looked at why I had been hanging onto the job. When I looked at it this way, I was able to see that the reasons why I was still there really didn’t fit with any of my values. The only reason I was still working in that position was because of the money I was making. Personally, I don’t place alot of value on having lots of money and the fact that alot of money was the only thing I was getting out of the job simply wasn’t good enough anymore. I reframed the situation, putting my most important values in the forefront and decided that it was time to leave. I gave my notice, left the job and my life took on new meaning. Instead of working to make more money, I started working to do the things I enjoyed doing. I even took a year and a half off before doing any kind of work outside the home and it really helped me put things in perspective. Today, I love the work I’m doing and although it won’t make me wealthy, I feel rich because it is enriching work.
Take a moment and think about something that you’ve been nervous about. Step back and examine the parts of the situation that you’re stuck on and then try to reframe the issue. It helps! Give it a shot.